Everyone: why is she with him if he treats her so wrong and/or is so abusive? She needs to leave, or her daughter is going to grow up getting mistreated because of her.
No One: why does he mistreat the two women in his life that should mean the most to him? He needs to either get his act together or let his wife and/or children move on and heal
"…One thing that can be very alienating about a misconception of feminism is that girls then think that to be a feminist, they have to live up to being perfectly consistent in your beliefs, never being insecure, never having doubts, having all the answers, and this is not true and actually, recognizing all the contradictions I was feeling became easier once I understood that feminism was not a rulebook but a discussion, a conversation, a process."
—Tavi Gevinson, TEDxTeen: Still Figuring it Out